Esther Perel – It’s Not Them, It’s You

Are you focusing on what's wrong in your relationship?

Deeply embedded in the work of intimacy, desire and relationships, psychotherapist and best-selling author Esther Perel unpacks the intersection between trust and betrayal.

In this Academy of Imperfection, Hugh (who sadly was violently ill last time we talked to Esther) comes armed with questions about the mental load (with love, from Penny), and how to navigate their differing needs for affection.

Ryan asks Esther whether we’re capable of falling in love with AI, and Josh wants to know why we sometimes put up walls with the ones we love the most.

If you’ve ever asked yourself the below, this episodes for you;

- is working from home causing social atrophy?
- what does it mean to be an embodied creature?
- what are the downfalls of a frictionless relationship?

Esther, you are welcome back anytime. ANYTIME.

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Intimacy what has changed what has stayed the same
6:23
This is my partner AI
14:08
A mismatch of affection
23:56
Bids for connection
32:08
Can you repair trust
41:02
Posttraumatic Growth
49:43
The central hub of our needs
58:38
The Mental Load Pt 2

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