Sex for Normal People with Ita O’Brien

Sex is sometimes a taboo topic. Not today! Intimacy expert Ita O’Brien tells us all about the new normal in the bedroom, and how she’s introduced it to Hollywood.

In 2017, Ita O’Brien changed how Hollywood approached sex scenes when she pioneered intimacy co-ordination on the hit Netflix show, Sex Education, by introducing the framework, “Intimacy On Set Guidelines”. She went on to on productions for Netflix, BBC, HBO, Hulu, Amazon, including Sex Education and Normal People, founding her own company Intimacy on Set.

And now she’s here.

Ita chats with the guys about what sex scenes were like before Intimacy Co-ordination, and all the lies movies taught us about sex. She explains the mysterious orgasm gap, why consent is the foundation of all intimacy, and maybe most importantly of all… the male and female anatomy of arousal! That bit’s at the 16min mark if you’re really in a hurry. 😉

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Chapters
00:00
Meet Ita OBrien the Worlds First Intimacy Coordinator
01:32
Inside Her Work on Normal People I May Destroy You Sex Education
04:17
What Intimacy Actually Means Its Not Just Sex
07:34
The Untold Story of the FirstEver Intimacy Coordinator Job
09:35
What Sex Scenes Were Like Before Consent Guidelines Existed
12:27
Why OnScreen Intimacy Shapes How We See Ourselves
14:33
The Hidden Lie Movies Taught Us About Sex
16:00
The Male Anatomy of Arousal Explained
18:33
The Female Anatomy of Arousal Explained
23:17
Why Desire Fades in LongTerm Relationships
25:59
The Power of Touch and Why Were Losing It
30:39
How Screens Are Rewiring Kids Ability to Connect
34:08
The Truth About the Orgasm Gap
40:30
Why Consent Is the Foundation of All Intimacy
43:10
Filming the Iconic Birth Scene in We Live in Time
49:52
How to Talk to Kids About Consent and Bodies
52:24
Consent Is Sexy A Call to Writers and Filmmakers
54:33
Sex Menopause and Intimacy at Every Life Stage
Transcript
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